I am a absolute beginner. I don't have a single pan in my apt and my fridge is (really) empty. I need a book to really guide me by the hand. A cookbook won't do that, so I am hoping to find the right book to get me moving in the right direction. Any recommendations or ideas will be helpful. I am a male, 38 and live alone in a studio. Want to learn how to cookie for a variety of reasons. The main two are: cook for my (current non-existent) girlfriend. Go on a diet and cook my own food (i am already lean and in good shape, so don't need to feel sorry about me here).